Proverbs 27:6 Faithful are the WOUNDS OF A FRIEND, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.
Years ago, a good family friend took me along with her to a carpentry workshop. Unknown to me at the time, she had ordered for herself a Designer Wall-unit for her living room. So, when we got to the wall-unit section, she proceeded to ask of my opinion on a particular wall-unit which had a few remaining touches to the finish.
‘What do your think of this unit? Do you think I should buy it?’ she asked. And of course, my answer wasn’t what she wanted to her. “No, I don’t like the unit. And I gave her my reasons. Moments later, she made this confession. ‘Anyway, this is the one I have ordered. I will be picking it up in a few days.’ For a few seconds, I felt shocked but no, not upset. Why? Because, I knew that my advice could have been the same had I known from the beginning the unit was hers. You see, she was one of those friends that I could tell the truth without the fear of losing them. And hence, my FRIENDLY ADVICE remained the same!
We live in a world where we encounter different kinds of people. We end up having friendships with people who might have different opinions, convictions or outlook about life issues. It is important to always know that friendships which are formed strictly on same mindedness, or goals or aspirations will at some point come to the point of differing. How do you deal with it? Do you walk out on someone who once agreed with you simply because, they are disagreeable on one minute issue? Yet, I see this happening all the time. We refuse the WOUNDS…or FRIENDLY ADVICE of long established friends who wants the best for us and trust only our own biased opinion. And it is even more sad, when it happens in the body of Christ or His church.
But there is a better way as the word put it;
Proverbs 27:17 As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the COUNTENANCE OF HIS FRIEND.
My brethren, listen to the counsel of your godly friends…yes, for a time it may hurt but it will do you good in the long run. It is God’s will that the church keep the unity in the Spirit through the bond of peace.