Deuteronomy 24:5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. FOR ONE YEAR he is to be free to stay at home and BRING HAPPINESS to the wife he has married.

Happiness…everyone, no matter their convictions desires one thing in marriage. Yes, that right. HAPPINESS. My greatest desire for my love story is, “AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER. Strangely though, a couple of times I have come across someone writing that God didn’t call you to have a happy marriage. And try hard as would, I am not convinced. No-one, and I MEAN, no-one walks down the aisle without the greatest hope that theirs will be a HAPPY ONE. Happiness in marriage is God’s desire for every husband and wife. And if it weren’t so, then why waste time instructing the Israelite husband about how to bring HAPPINESS to his new bride?

And while, we may live in different times and culture, the same instruction if well followed can save many a marriages. Let’s face it. As newly weds, things do not work out automatically. In the first year, there are so many adjustments to make: decisions to be discussed together, in-laws to deal with, bills to be paid, and yes, loads of housework to be done. And while, it may seem obvious before you begin staying together, all these seemingly little adjustments can prove to be the downfall of your marriage.

But God wants us to solve the problem before it begin. Hence, the instruction. KEEP YOURSELF FREE FROM TOO MANY ACTIVITIES and yes, LET YOUR ROMANCE GET GROUNDED! I know from experience, that if the first year is wasted on other lesser and unimportant issues than grounding your romance life, as the years go by it will get harder.

Are you planning to get married? Find time for her. Yes…for one solid year BE HERS!
Are you already married? Find time…no, find MORE TIME FOR HER...and you will restore back the years the locusts have stolen. GO ON…DO THE RIGHT THING and LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!


  1. Hi Gladwell! How are you my friend! Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and kindness. I do not take it for granted. I don’t know where you find the time…okay I take it back…God helps…smiles…Continue to be a Blessing! This is such a wonderful article. Love Lanie

  2. Very well said, Gladwell, so very true. I’ve been married almost 36 years and it’s still extremely important to make time for each other.

    By the way, my last name is Harwood not Sigman. That’s the OTHER Marsha’s Musings. Actually, there are 3 Marsha’s Musings. That’s why I just changed my domain name this week to claim the name before on of the other blogspot Marsha’s does.

    I told my daughter about your blog, BTW. She’s been to visit a couple of times. So when you see traffic from Kenya it may be her!

    Have a blessed weekend.

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