Isaiah 54: 1-2 “Sing, O barren woman, you who never bore a child; burst into song, shout for joy, you who were never in labour; because more are the children of the desolate woman than of her who has a husband,” says the Lord
ENLARGE THE PLACE OF YOUR TENT, stretch your tent curtains wide, DO NO HOLD BACK lengthen your cords, strengthen your stakes.
Single-hood is the most neglected topic on the Christian church agenda. Why, because being single is seen as the WAIT AND SEE period in a young adult’s life. Of course, there is expectation that with time, you will finally hook up with someone and the wedding bells will ring. But truth be said, that’s not always the case. At times, it takes longer and longer for this to come to be. At best, the church is equipped to meet the needs of the waiting 20 something year olds, in college or fresh from college starting out on their careers. Then they hit their 30s but still, nothing. The programs to reach out to this bunch become few and few. And hence with time…THE SILENCE begins. By keeping quiet, the Christian community hopes against hope that things will soon work out by themselves.
From my own experience, I remember how excited I used to get every time there was some preaching about singles and the preparation for marriage. And of course, privately, I read dozens of books on single-hood and marriage alike, with the hope that, armed with this knowledge, things could only get easier. But no, they didn’t. The waiting got tougher. Every time I heard a sermon on single-hood and marriage, it no longer seemed to apply for me.
And while, it easy to preach a sermon…as you look around, you start realizing that men of your age in your church community are getting few and few. Before you know it, all your friends are gone and of course, you start becoming a threat to their own relationships. AND THE NEGLECT DEEPENS. I was there. I know the pain. I know that sense of feeling out of place. I know it all.
But, I also know this…The LORD, the one who knows your going out and your coming in. The ONE, who sees the irking in your heart every time you hear someone much younger than you preparing for their wedding. And yes, the ONE who sees the unshed tears, every time you see a young mother having a playful time with their toddlers, He had not forgotten. In fact, He is saying;
SING…I WANT TO HEAR YOUR VOICE ABOVE THE NOISE
SHOUT…I WANT TO HEAR YOUR JOY ABOVE THE JEER
You can’t hold back. ENLARGE, STRETCH, LENGTHEN AND STRENGTHEN. It takes time my dear to do all this, but in MY TIME, yes…when I come, YOU WILL DISPOSSESS NATIONS AND SETTLE IN THEIR DESOLATE CITIES.
If you feel neglected, this one is for you, big time. Blessings as always,