Matthew 5:27 ‘You have heard that it was said, Do not commit adultery. But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman LUSTFULLY has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Let me start here with a true story. Many years ago, when I was a baby Christian, there was a couple who I really admired and looked up to. From outside, their marriage looked so beautiful and genuine and of course, naturally I wanted to have what they had; A marriage built on love, tenderness and a quiet respect. Then one day, my innocence was brutally violated when I found out that he, the husband was having an affair with his wife’s best friend. For days and weeks, I pondered as my heart ached if to tell her what I knew or not. Without the courage to face her, I cut and ran. Oh…you have to forgive me…but that’s what I did! Hoping against hope, I prayed privately for their marriage to find a common ground for healing and restoration but it was never to be. Many years down the road, the marriage came to an END, a very painful end!
And while I still have no answer to the question if I should have intervened then or not, I know that Jesus did intervene in the issue of INFIDELITY. No…he did not give us a foundation for divorce or how we should deal with others infidelity…but rather, when He spoke about adultery, He was addressing the married couples. You see, until you are married…or you are single dealing with a married person, you might not think much about infidelity. INFIDELITY in marriage as Jesus puts it, starts not as we know it…that is, the actual bed act…but rather with A LOOK….yes, THAT LOOK!
We all know THAT LOOK. The look that says you are captivating, mysterious or desirable. Its a look that makes one uncomfortable even though words have not been spoken. On one hand, one might enjoy being admired by someone who is not your spouse…but the truth is…THE LOOK OF LUST…does not in the least admire you…no, it always sees you as a means to an end. That look is not seeking for your good…but to satisfy its own carnal desires. For a time, it might even feel right….but ultimately…it leads only to destruction.
Proverbs 7:25-26 Do not LUST In YOUR HEART after her beauty, or let her CAPTIVATE YOU WITH HER EYES, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your VERY LIFE.
For a marriage to strive and thrive, there is always a need to keep up in step with each other. Because, if you loose the rhythm and heartbeat of your marriage…the little foxes will enter in.
Song of Songs 2:15 Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that RUIN the vineyards, OUR VINEYARDS THAT ARE IN BLOOM.
To the married ones and the ones who are waiting for a godly mate out there:
Hebrews 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the MARRIAGE BED KEPT PURE, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.
Are you guarding your marriage and your marriage bed? Is that look suggesting more than is necessary?